Any idea what factor could contribute to divorce at such a high rate?
You may be surprised: it’s accepting influence.
Research shows that men are more likely to resist influence from their female partners - and not accepting influence contributes to divorce or relationship dissolution at a rate of 81 percent.
Men are not the only guilty party here. All relationships are impacted if one or both partners are not accepting influence.
Is yours?
It’s much easier to notice when our partner isn’t taking our point of view into consideration, than when we’re not allowing our partner to influence us. Different experiences can contribute to not accepting influence. It can be due to things that live outside our relationship, such as social influence, gender roles, and our family history that can color what we feel is “best” or “right.” We can get preemptively defensive when our partner is trying to influence us and we feel like our thoughts, feeling, values, and needs are not being heard and honored.
This week we’re talking about how to accept influence in your relationship without feeling like you are “giving in” or “losing.” We’ll be covering:
How it feels when your partner accepts/doesn’t accept influence from you
What makes it hard to accept influence
Strategies for accepting influence on a consistent basis
How to integrate open communication and compromise into your relationship
Listen:
Watch:
Show Notes:
SGR 001: Communication that (Actually) Works
SGR 006: How to Get Your Partner to Say Yes
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
How it feels when your partner is accepting influence from you - 2:27
How it feels when your partner is not accepting influence from you - 3:20
What message do you want to send to your partner? - 4:47
What makes it hard to accept influence? - 5:42
How you were raised affects how you accept influence - 9:14
Expectations around decision- making - 10:37
How it looks when your partner is not accepting influence - 13:04
Accepting influence does not always mean agreeing - 14:03
Tips for accepting influence - 14:47
Meredith + Marina’s Takeaways - 18:17
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