The kids are back in school and work is getting crazy.
You can’t even think about next week, let alone the holidays coming up.
There seems to always be too much to do and not enough time to do it.
You and your partner are running around, trying to get through each day, and doing your best to juggle all the responsibilities.
Unfortunately, when things get this hectic, two things tend to get pushed to the back-burner:
Self care and partner care.
Without these, we start to feel like the things that should be bringing us joy aren’t. Feelings of disconnect and frustration can make the overwhelm of our busy lives even more impactful.
Luckily, carving out even small chunks of time and preserving rituals of connection can help buffer against stress.
This week we are talking all about the impact our hectic schedules can have on couples and how we can connect in meaningful, yet quick, realistic, and efficient ways. We are covering:
How we feel and what we need when things get hectic
How your relationship suffers when things get too busy
How your relationship can serve as a cushion for external stress
Quick ways to stay connected
We’ve got a super handy bonus for you - The Lightning Fast Connection Activities List. It’s our go-to resource for quick ways to deeply connect when things get so busy it feels like there is no time to nurture your relationship.
Listen:
Watch:
Show Notes:
SGR 002: Getting Back to the Honeymoon Phase - One Habit at a Time
SGR 005: How to Win a Fight
SGR 006: How to Get Your Partner to Say Yes
SGR 007: Why We Fight Over Who is Doing the Dishes (And How Not To)
SGR 009: Why Happy is Overrated
SGR 012: How to Agree to Disagree
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
Common expectations vs. common realities - 3:03
“Marriage should be just like dating” - 3:22
“My partner will take care of me” - 5:42
“We will always agree on everything” - 6:46
“My vision should also be my partner’s vision” - 7:24
“I think my partner should know my needs” - 8:40
“Your spouse is not a psychic” - 9:53
“We will never have external stressors” - 13:57
Non-negotiables - 16:55
Negative sentiment override - 18:54
Different expectations - 20:57
Shoulds - 22:07
The Five Love Languages - 26:02
How to let go of contingencies and “shoulds” - 31:10
Gratitude journaling - 31:36
Process-based compliments - 34:09
Focus on small stuff - 35:23
How to create a new set of expectations - 37:55
Meredith + Marina’s takeaways - 42:29
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