Has your love life fallen into a predictable rut?
Has intimacy become about that check-the-box sex that feels way too mechanical and routine?
Guess what?
When your sex life feels as “exciting” as a Pumpkin Spice Latte, the rest of your relationship is impacted.
Unmet intimate needs - that often arise when sex becomes boring, mechanical, routine, and like a chore - tend to affect other areas of our relationship in a negative way.
They can make us:
Feel disconnected
Question our compatibility
Resign ourselves to a mediocre relationship
This creates a great deal of frustration for us and our partners. It’s not always easy to identify this issue, but falling into an overly predictable and unsatisfying sexual routine is a pretty good indicator that change is needed.
It is not uncommon for couples to fall into an intimate rut, especially as the holidays approach and we have to focus more on family, social commitments, and intensified school and work schedules. But, no one wants to be stuck in a basic, pumpkin-spice-latte routine and you don’t have to endure the lull (whether it’s seasonal or longer term).
This week we are talking about how to take your intimate life from basic to simply great by getting your priorities in order. We’ll discuss:
How to know when your intimate life becomes too routine
How being stuck in an intimate rut affects the rest of your relationship
Why who initiates matters
How to take your intimate life from basic to simply great
We also made a sexy and not-so-basic bonus for you - The Ultimate Intimacy Calendar for Couples - that helps you to use prioritizing and scheduling as foreplay and plan out a whole month of sexy ahead of time.
Listen:
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Show Notes:
SGR 001 - Communication that (Actually) Works
SGR 003 - Creating More Pleasure in Your Relationship
SGR 010 - Bringing Sexy Back
SGR 017 - Talking About The Scary Stuff - Being Vulnerable
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
How to know when your intimate life becomes too routine - 1:44
Pumpkin Spice Latte - 2:08
How being stuck in an intimate rut affects the rest of your relationship - 4:08
Questioning the relationship - 5:08
Feeling resigned to a mediocre relationship - 5:37
Why who initiates matters - 7:35
How to “create room” for both partners to initiate - 14:10
How to take your intimate life from basic to simply great - 17:05
Work on intimacy calendar together on date night - 26:44
Meredith and Marina’s Takeaway’s - 28:38
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