Happy New Year!
Where have we been??
We know, we’ve been off the grid for a few weeks. You’ll find out why in a few episodes (although, some of you may know already).
It’s 2018. We are all feeling ambitious, goal-oriented, hopeful, a bit exhausted… and financially strapped.
All the gifts, travel expenses, and holiday attire really do add up. They take a toll on your bank account, but also your relationship because it’s hard to see eye-to-eye on spending. One of you loves to treat yourself and those you love, while the other is focused on ensuring the credit cards are paid off each month and the savings account is well-funded.
Sound familiar? You are not alone...
All couples fight about money!
Regardless of financial status, couples tend to fight about how to make money, how to manage it, how to spend it, how to save it, who to leave it to, how to protect it, how to invest it… basically, everything.
Why does something seemingly straightforward cause so much turmoil?
Our personal relationship with money predates our relationship with our partner. We all have our own unique beliefs and meanings we attribute to money. While you may see money representative of security, opportunity, and freedom, your partner may see it as a sense of accomplishment, power, and success.
So, after saying “I do” two people are expected to see eye-to-eye on how to spend, save, and manage their money while (likely) having differing views of what it means and what you’re “supposed” to do with it.
It’s no wonder all couples fight about money.
Luckily, it is possible to get on the same page and make peace with this topic. This week, we are sharing the ways we help couples get out of the financial war zone. We’re discussing:
What makes it so hard to talk about money
Why couples fight about money
How to (finally) get on the same page when it comes to finances
For a step-by-step guide to working together to achieve your financial goals, be sure to download this week’s bonus - The Happy Couples’ Guide to Shared Finances - and help improve your relationship with money for good.
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Show Notes:
SGR 001 - Communication that (Actually) Works
SGR 004 - How to Get Divorced: What Not To Do In Your Relationship
SGR 005 How to Win a Fight
SGR 006 - How to Get Your Partner to Say Yes
SGR 013 - When Marriage Doesn’t Feel Like A Fairy-Tale
SGR 015 - How to Get Your Partner to Support Your Life’s Dreams
SGR 017 - Talking About The Scary Stuff: Being Vulnerable
SGR 020 - Surviving Thanksgiving
SGR 026 - How to Have the Best New Year’s Eve
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
What makes it hard to talk about money - 1:56
Money is emotionally-charged - 2:01
Money is a stressor - 5:58
Money is tied to expectations - 7:21
Why couples fight about money - 11:22
Where our beliefs about money come from - 16:40
How to get on the same page when it comes to finances - 22:32
Meredith and Marina’s takeaways - 35:47
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