Consider the following:
“I am more focused on changing my partner, than I am on changing myself.”
“If my partner is unhappy, I am incredibly uncomfortable and feel I need to fix or change their emotional state.
“I need to sacrifice my own happiness and/or well-being in order to ensure my partner is happy.”
If these statements rang true for you, you may have a tendency towards codependency.
Codependency is a dynamic in relationships that lends itself to dissatisfaction, resentment, and having unmet needs. Once identified, you have an opportunity to shift it. You can work to:
Become aware of what triggers codependent behavior for you
Explore the ways codependence has tried to keep you “safe”
Identify alternative behaviors, when these triggers arise, that are healthier and will serve you best
In this week’s episode, we’re talking with codependency expert, Marlena Tillhon, MSc. She’s sharing common traits of codependency in relationships, how codependency can create challenges in a partnership, and strategies for moving towards a healthier dynamic.
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Marlena Tillhon, MSc, is an experienced psychotherapist specializing in helping people end their struggles with codependency and insecure attachment and learn how to create healthy relationships so that they can finally get the love they need. You can visit her website at marlena.love, follow her on Instagram @lovewithclarity, and join her Love with Clarity community on Facebook. Marlena has a free video course, Losing Yourself in Relationships, that you can access here.
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