When you first started dating, you only saw each other on weekends. Dinner and a movie or Sunday brunch comprised your time spent together. As your relationship progressed, you began to share more time and weeknight sleepovers are now a standard. You still have your own routine - Happy Hour on Thursdays with your co-workers, hitting the gym and going for brunch with your friends on Saturdays, and family dinner with your parents on Sundays. Your relationship continued to grow and you decided to move in together.
Suddenly, you’re not feeling as happy as you thought you would.
You should feel excited about this next chapter in your life, right? Who doesn’t want to be one step closer to “happily ever after?”
Doubt creeps in.
Are you really ready to give up your own lifestyle for your partner? Are you two going to see eye-to-eye on how your relationship should function?
Maybe you feel like you are going to lose yourself in the relationship.
Maybe you feel pushed into this commitment by your family.
"Your cousin is three years younger than you and just had her second baby… the clock is ticking!"
You like your life. You like your routines, your friends, and your rituals. You worked hard to get here and don’t want to give up who you are just to be in a relationship. That doesn't seem like the recipe for a happy life.
You truly love your partner. You want your relationship to have a future. So, how do you balance these conflicting desires?
Going from two “I’s” to a “we” can be challenging for many couples. Each of us is a unique individual and we don’t want to lose ourselves. We also want to feel the sense of security and close connection that comes with our relationship.
In today’s episode, we’re going to look at whether you are ready for the transition. We will help you navigate it without feeling like you are losing your sense of independence. We’re going to discuss:
“I” mindset vs. “we” mindset
How to know if you are ready for the big “we”
Challenges of becoming a “we”
“We”-ing without losing your “I”
Creating your own “we”
For help navigating the transition from two "I’s” to a "we," download this week’s bonus - The Foolproof Guide for Going from Two “I’s” to a “We.” You will easily evaluate your readiness for the big “we” and smoothly take the next step in your relationship.
If you know this is a hot-button issue in your relationship and don’t feel you can resolve it on your own, let us help. The quickest way to a Simply Great Relationship is to work directly with us. Send us an email at info@simplygreatrelationships.com or call/text us at (914) 440-4814. You can also visit our website at www.simplygreatrelationships.com and submit a request there.
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Show Notes:
SGR 002 - Getting Back to the Honeymoon Phase - One Habit at a Time
SGR 013 - When Marriage Doesn’t Feel Like A Fairy-Tale
SGR 014 - How to Make Time For Each Other When You Have No Time
SGR 020 - Surviving Thanksgiving
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
“I” mindset versus “we” mindset - 1:41
How to know if you're ready for the big “we” - 3:36
Challenges in becoming a “we” - 12:40
“We”-ing without losing our “I’s” - 26:30
Creating your own “we” - 29:58
Meredith and Marina’s takeaways - 33:13
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