Friends, this is a big one.
We hear from couples EVERY DAY that their biggest challenge is talking, talking, talking about a problem, but never getting to solve it. They discuss it, they argue, it gets heated, and either both partners give up or get too angry to continue.
Why is this so common?
If you’ve listened to the last two episodes on defensiveness and criticism, you may know where we’re headed…
Couples fall into the criticism-defensiveness pattern and go around in circles, pulling each other off topic, and fighting about things that happened three years ago, rather than moving constructively towards a solution to the problem they started with.
They start to feel hopeless and helpless in their relationship. Their concerns are never addressed, so it doesn’t feel like change is possible. There seem to be two choices:
Stay in this relationship that doesn’t feel good.
Leave this relationship.
Luckily, there is an alternative. You CAN tackle the cycle of criticism-defensiveness in your relationship! You just need to learn how.
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